Hello again my seekers of knowledge. How the heck are you? We are still going to focus on the Clitoris, because we love her, yes?
If I told you that there was a way to make your goddess putty in your hands, would you listen? Guess what, guys? I know exactly what it takes to satisfy a woman; in the bedroom at least; As I'm a woman! You might think that a few kisses and the presentation of your proud erect buddy, attached to you might be enough to make her quiver, but you might be missing the most important factor in your, and your lovers sexual satisfaction.
Women have so many erogenous zones that it can get a little overwhelming for a guy trying to figure out the magic combination to her satisfaction. You've already gotten a play-by-play overview of the most popular ; her G-spot ; so now it's time to fully consider the never-fail, go-to spot for her orgasm. It's time to focus on the most important square inch on her body: her clitoris. Understanding the clitoris is the key to a woman eager to come back for more! Get comfortable and pay attention, here's ALMOST everything you need to know when it comes to understanding the clitoris. I can't write a book here, so chapter by chapter, we'll get the story finished.
Language
Sexual stimulation is largely a cerebral activity for women; know this guys. Turning her on requires attention to her brain, not just her body. Even if you and your lover have yet to venture into talking dirty to each other, rest assured that whispering in her ear about what you plan on DOING to her, or how turned on you are, can be enough to get her wanting more. Believe me! The more aroused you can get her before the clothes come off, the easier your next job will be and this is key to understanding the clitoris and everything around it.
Fingers
It goes without saying that clean hands and neat fingernails are key if you plan on going exploring, but what you might not realize is that diving in and honing in on her clitoris to start with might not be your best plan of attack. Your fingers are agile, so use them to your advantage. Stroke her thighs on your way and caress the areas on either side of her clitoris, including her labia, before gently making the first contact. What about the 10 erogenous zones on her abdomen? You're not even aware of those either, are you? This area directly stimulates the inside of the yoni, without once again, the intrusion. A lot of women may find direct pressure and instant entry into her flower uncomfortable, so try aiming just below or just above her clitoris and all those other areas, making small circular movements. The clitoris actually extends well into her entire pelvic region, rest assured that her enjoyment will only be enhanced by full manual coverage.
Just a note on pressure: Be sure to keep the strokes smooth with her sensitive areas before you get to know what she likes and are clear on your understanding of the clitoris. A light touch will be more successful on most women. Use feathers, soft paint brushes and other playful props for stimulation. Get creative!
Mouth
All women appreciate that you've decided to get up close and personal; really, they do! Your mouth (and tongue!) are your best aids to helping her achieve an earth-shattering orgasm every time. The built-in lubrication and warmth are obvious pros in favour of oral stimulation; as is your ability to mix up the sensations with your lips and tongue, (it's teamwork here!) If you're looking to move past, the basic flick and swirl and show that you really understand the clitoris, try creating a bit of suction by taking her clitoris into your mouth with some gentle sucking or pulling away when she's close to orgasm, and gently blowing on it to heighten her sensation and prolong the encounter.
Lingam
I don't want you to ignore your favourite sex toy when we're discussing her orgasm and understanding the clitoris; your lingam can get in the game and help out during foreplay to really get her going as well. During love making, your attached buddy might not get too much face time with her clitoris, so it's worth taking a bit of time to introduce them ; they're sure to be fast friends. Before love making, why not try having your sweetie lay on her back with her legs clamped together tightly (on her stomach works too) and slide your ever so lovely wand of light between her legs, right where they meet with her pelvis. Moving back and forth in this position lets your lingam rub between her labia and, more importantly, directly over her clitoris. Not only does this trick feel great for both of you, it's sure to heighten your collective arousal and result in possible orgasms for everyone.
Understanding the clitoris is the sign of a man that is invested in his partner and her pleasure, both of which are noble qualities. Even though it seems like a bit of a mystery, there's nothing to be afraid of, and many things to gain, namely a happy and satisfied woman. And remember, a satisfied woman is going to be more interested in making sure that you're satisfied too, and you can't ask for more than that.
Once again my sexy friends, it has been yet another stimulating connection with all of you!
Be healthy, harmonious, and most of all, helpful, in bringing out the most ecstatic stimulation for your partners clitoris.
See you all next week!
oxoxoxoxoxoxox
Sunday, July 19, 2015
Saturday, July 4, 2015
Pray for Sex
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Essential Elements
Hey you guys! How are all things this week? Do you get down on your knees and say your prayers every day? Excuse me! Why the heck not? Shame on you if you don't. If that seems to be too much of a task for you; why not implement a prayer into your sex life. Don't worry; I haven't gone religious on you all, heaven forbid that! But you can certainly add the sex prayer into your intimate practice with your partner; and you would be better off by doing so!
The sex prayer IS the essential prayer that incorporates movement with tender speech, with one another. It can be as simple as whispering to your partner just before the both of you connect into the sacred union together; with the intention that your every gentle sliding movement, is voiced by a prayer. The most exquisite form of a sex prayer, in the Tantra language, is combining our mouth energy with the connection of the palm of our hands, with our partners heart. The prayer is actually recited when your lingam is inside your partners yoni; and gracefully making movements that are made in sync. This my followers, is for the intention of connecting to each others source of life force; an extremely powerful ingredient for sacred love.
Spiritual sexual gurus (like myself) frequently suggest to seekers, to use sex prayers, particularly during the kinesthetic experience of making love. Sex prayers are also good for people who are having trouble feeling grounded or fully present in their bodies while having sex.
Sacred sex prayers help couples purify their intentions. When the almighty sex prayer is placed into the rhythm before, during and after making love; it directs the intention to a place within us, called pure unconditional love, which truly gives tenderness, deepens the united act of sex, gives a self offering that tells the truth and doesn't deceive, and plants forgiveness that truly heals, from loving physical sexual union.
If you want to start practicing the sex prayer but aren’t sure how to begin; I have shared one of my own below, for you to insert into your binders
This is my sex prayer
My divine one, it seems so crazy to think that I have anything I could possibly give to you at this time of intimacy, or that there’s anything you need from me. But you’ve said that you want me, that you desire me, so please take me; I’m yours! Breathe with me. Be present with me. If there’s any way that I can bring you even the teensiest bit of love and comfort, then teach me how; and I'll show you how. Show me how I can give you pleasure; and you will understand mine.
The sex prayer is not just healing, it's a sexy way to experience each others intentions as well; hence, IT WILL BE A TURN ON!
Talk to you next week!
oxoxoxoxoxo
416 556 2647
Essential Elements
Hey you guys! How are all things this week? Do you get down on your knees and say your prayers every day? Excuse me! Why the heck not? Shame on you if you don't. If that seems to be too much of a task for you; why not implement a prayer into your sex life. Don't worry; I haven't gone religious on you all, heaven forbid that! But you can certainly add the sex prayer into your intimate practice with your partner; and you would be better off by doing so!
The sex prayer IS the essential prayer that incorporates movement with tender speech, with one another. It can be as simple as whispering to your partner just before the both of you connect into the sacred union together; with the intention that your every gentle sliding movement, is voiced by a prayer. The most exquisite form of a sex prayer, in the Tantra language, is combining our mouth energy with the connection of the palm of our hands, with our partners heart. The prayer is actually recited when your lingam is inside your partners yoni; and gracefully making movements that are made in sync. This my followers, is for the intention of connecting to each others source of life force; an extremely powerful ingredient for sacred love.
Spiritual sexual gurus (like myself) frequently suggest to seekers, to use sex prayers, particularly during the kinesthetic experience of making love. Sex prayers are also good for people who are having trouble feeling grounded or fully present in their bodies while having sex.
Sacred sex prayers help couples purify their intentions. When the almighty sex prayer is placed into the rhythm before, during and after making love; it directs the intention to a place within us, called pure unconditional love, which truly gives tenderness, deepens the united act of sex, gives a self offering that tells the truth and doesn't deceive, and plants forgiveness that truly heals, from loving physical sexual union.
If you want to start practicing the sex prayer but aren’t sure how to begin; I have shared one of my own below, for you to insert into your binders
This is my sex prayer
My divine one, it seems so crazy to think that I have anything I could possibly give to you at this time of intimacy, or that there’s anything you need from me. But you’ve said that you want me, that you desire me, so please take me; I’m yours! Breathe with me. Be present with me. If there’s any way that I can bring you even the teensiest bit of love and comfort, then teach me how; and I'll show you how. Show me how I can give you pleasure; and you will understand mine.
The sex prayer is not just healing, it's a sexy way to experience each others intentions as well; hence, IT WILL BE A TURN ON!
Talk to you next week!
oxoxoxoxoxo
Thursday, June 25, 2015
The Yoni Chronicles
Hi sexy ones! How is everyone coming along with their journey? Let
me ask you something. Can you identify your partners Yoni? And why
would you even need to know who she is, anyway? I’m happy keeping mine
at arms length; yet, there is more to our genitals than just face value
you know! We must get more acquainted with them in all areas of their
circumference, internal dialogue, wall to wall; ceiling to floor and
shaft to glands; but ladies first as usual! I gotta be honest though; I
think we’re good, meaning, me and my hoo hoo, that is. But I
definitely would miss her if she wasn’t around, so I have taken the time
to research and explore in depth; to find out who she really is!
You see, we weren’t told to get to know our genitals. And for a fact; I was a bit concerned prior to finding out who she was; that I didn't know my Yoni at all. Frankly, I couldn’t even pick her out of a line up! Seriously, can you or your partner for that matter? I mean look, I could have probably narrowed it down, like they taught us to do in SAT prep (Scholastic Aptitude Test), but any Yoni with the same grooming, colouring, and general size; could have been mine! I"m tellin ya, how sad is that? I didn’t even know if my Yoni had any defining marks, characteristics, or any emotional traits that made it uniquely my own.
Listen up all you women & men out there. Yoni's come in lots of different shapes, sizes, colours and personalities. There’s 9 in fact, variations from person to person, both in women & men, and there’s no such thing as a standard Yoni or Lingam either. One example is; not all women are born with hymens. And for those who do have hymens, they range in thickness and amount of coverage. What this means is; you can’t actually tell if someone is a virgin or not by doing a hymen check!
In my practice, I offer a path of exploration into your Yoni & Lingam's personal identity; and match it up to one of the 9 anatomies of who you are. This practice enables you to clearly understand what type of a lover you are; and how you actually like pleasure. I'm going to tell you today, that every one of those anatomies have completely different structures, physically. So, if you think something is wrong with you down south; you're wrong!
With women, their erogenous zones are either far apart, or very close together. If they are closer together; she can experience a faster orgasm than if her erogenous zones are further apart. This, my fellow male followers, is why your partner may take a lot longer to explode into orgasmic bliss. If you are making love to your partner; and her erogenous anatomy is spread further apart within her love chamber; you're probably not hitting all the erogenous zones to trigger her orgasm. If all her erogenous zones are all clustered together, meaning the vaginal opening, the clitoris and the g spot, then just a finger or tongue will do the job, because all the erogenous zones are being stimulated simultaneously and therefor, she can have an orgasm in less than 2 minutes! Good Goddess; I'm jealous!
Knowing your partners sexual identity is so crucial, because it's healing; and we finally realize for the first time; that there's nothing wrong with us at all. Understanding your anatomy reveals who you are sexually and what you like sexually. Discovering what your physical anatomy actual is, will repair emotional wounds and sexual insecurities, revive monotonous relationships, and discover the sweet medicine of sex again! I absolutely love revealing to my seekers; their sexual identities; and giving them a actual name of a sacred land animal. Whether people come to me as an individual woman, man, or as a couple; they are astonished when I pull out my anatomy drawings for hers and his as well; and get right down to the identification exercise right off the bat. These sacred healing teachings explain the physical, energetic, and sexual qualities of the 9 female & male genital anatomy types; and how to identify yourself, so both women and men can please each other properly, in pleasure, not pain! As well, taking pride in their own unique anatomy as a sexual human being is life changing. Not only does the narrowing down of your identity get you onto the path of sexual self realization; you also discover the variations of orgasmic expression (which I explain in sessions) associated will all 9! How friggin cool is that I ask you?
You see, we weren’t told to get to know our genitals. And for a fact; I was a bit concerned prior to finding out who she was; that I didn't know my Yoni at all. Frankly, I couldn’t even pick her out of a line up! Seriously, can you or your partner for that matter? I mean look, I could have probably narrowed it down, like they taught us to do in SAT prep (Scholastic Aptitude Test), but any Yoni with the same grooming, colouring, and general size; could have been mine! I"m tellin ya, how sad is that? I didn’t even know if my Yoni had any defining marks, characteristics, or any emotional traits that made it uniquely my own.
Listen up all you women & men out there. Yoni's come in lots of different shapes, sizes, colours and personalities. There’s 9 in fact, variations from person to person, both in women & men, and there’s no such thing as a standard Yoni or Lingam either. One example is; not all women are born with hymens. And for those who do have hymens, they range in thickness and amount of coverage. What this means is; you can’t actually tell if someone is a virgin or not by doing a hymen check!
In my practice, I offer a path of exploration into your Yoni & Lingam's personal identity; and match it up to one of the 9 anatomies of who you are. This practice enables you to clearly understand what type of a lover you are; and how you actually like pleasure. I'm going to tell you today, that every one of those anatomies have completely different structures, physically. So, if you think something is wrong with you down south; you're wrong!
With women, their erogenous zones are either far apart, or very close together. If they are closer together; she can experience a faster orgasm than if her erogenous zones are further apart. This, my fellow male followers, is why your partner may take a lot longer to explode into orgasmic bliss. If you are making love to your partner; and her erogenous anatomy is spread further apart within her love chamber; you're probably not hitting all the erogenous zones to trigger her orgasm. If all her erogenous zones are all clustered together, meaning the vaginal opening, the clitoris and the g spot, then just a finger or tongue will do the job, because all the erogenous zones are being stimulated simultaneously and therefor, she can have an orgasm in less than 2 minutes! Good Goddess; I'm jealous!
Knowing your partners sexual identity is so crucial, because it's healing; and we finally realize for the first time; that there's nothing wrong with us at all. Understanding your anatomy reveals who you are sexually and what you like sexually. Discovering what your physical anatomy actual is, will repair emotional wounds and sexual insecurities, revive monotonous relationships, and discover the sweet medicine of sex again! I absolutely love revealing to my seekers; their sexual identities; and giving them a actual name of a sacred land animal. Whether people come to me as an individual woman, man, or as a couple; they are astonished when I pull out my anatomy drawings for hers and his as well; and get right down to the identification exercise right off the bat. These sacred healing teachings explain the physical, energetic, and sexual qualities of the 9 female & male genital anatomy types; and how to identify yourself, so both women and men can please each other properly, in pleasure, not pain! As well, taking pride in their own unique anatomy as a sexual human being is life changing. Not only does the narrowing down of your identity get you onto the path of sexual self realization; you also discover the variations of orgasmic expression (which I explain in sessions) associated will all 9! How friggin cool is that I ask you?
Learning
to grow into your unique sexual space as an individual and pinpoint
exactly who you are down there, is the most empowering experience for
both you and your partner. And not only that; once you reclaim your
identity and if you're single; you'll know how to more accurately play,
sexually, with a partner, just by identifying her/his genitalia; instead
of that drawn out guessing game.
Want to know any further details about this mysterious practice; you know how to reach me!
oxoxoxox
Friday, June 5, 2015
Intention vs Goal
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Hello all you hard working goal setters! Stop being so hard on yourselves. Listen, we've all heard the advice; set GOALS if you want to accomplish anything substantial, right? For sure we have! Our society, has an obsession with GOAL setting, even in the sac, if you can believe that! I"m here to help you scratch that off the list. It doesn't apply here people!
We tie a GOAL to an accomplishment; and In our culture, an individual can't be considered successful unless a GOAL has been achieved. And the usual motivation behind that method of madness, is carried right over into our sex lives. How f....cked up is that I ask you? The bigger, the longer the wetter the better; why, why, why I ask, does it even matter? The way to measure success with sex; is to measure your INTENTION right off the bat!
What are you aiming for; what's the plan man? There's compelling evidence that in this area of life, people and couples consistently fall short of achieving bliss; which IS the only GOAL that's required in this scenario! More often than not, the fault is attributed by the GOAL setter. Yep, those of us who insist on bringing the outside GOAL BULL CRAP into the bedroom. But the real problem here, is the efficacy of the INTENTION itself.
There are psychological manifestations that can organically grow from not achieving any GOAL at all when it comes to sex; which is much less damaging on our esteem, than having one in the first place. The process that I like to bring into this equation, allows you to set up desires (NOT GOALS) that are realistic for the reality of sex. Whenever we desire things that we don't have, we set our brains nervous system to produce emotions. Secondly, get rid of those highly aspirational GOALS that you want with sex. Those require us to develop new competencies, some of which, may be beyond our own current sexual capabilities. Look, we are who we are in this quadrant of life, so be comfortable with who that is. Remember your blueprint sexy ones! The more you try and develop these outrageous personalities that you are not; but you heard that it could be sexy, the more likely you are to experience an unsatisfactory sex life, which then can become a turn off. And the third; GOAL setting which sets up an either or polarity of success. The only true measure can either be 100% satisfied sexually, or perfection in the bedroom, or 99% and less, which is failure. The fourth and final, GOAL setting doesn't take into account random spontaneity of chance. The other problem is; that sexual GOALS often throw in the images of the ideal or perfection, which activates the self judging thinking of; I should be this way or that way. This totally counteracts "in the moment" which needs to be the only element here.
We must also make a distinction between our INTENTION vs GOAL. An INTENTION is a direction we want to pursue, and preferably with passion of coarse. Through my practice with couples and singles coming to me for guidance, they are often confused, and unclear about the INTENTION of how they want to live in their sex life, and therefore a focus on GOAL is amplified. This doesn't assist them with clarifying their INTENTION at all.
When I work with people as their sex coach and mentor with this area of their life, they often tell me they've set a GOAL such as; I want to be able to last longer with my partner (which is fine and dandy) or, I want to be able to make my partner orgasm 4 times! Nice thought, but unrealistic. What they don't realize is, they've just described the symptoms or outcomes of the problems in their sex life. The cause of the problem, which many resist facing, is the GOAL needs to vanish! They don't realize that for a change to occur in the bedroom, (if you want change that is; they must have an INTENTION only. Once you make that change, everything around you will alter, which will make the GOAL irrelevant.
There's an old saying here, and we need to renew it; you don't get what you want in life (GOAL), you get in life what you are (INTENTION).
Ok my sexy little grasshoppers. Let's stick with the process, shall we?
oxoxoxoxoxoxo
416 556 2647
Hello all you hard working goal setters! Stop being so hard on yourselves. Listen, we've all heard the advice; set GOALS if you want to accomplish anything substantial, right? For sure we have! Our society, has an obsession with GOAL setting, even in the sac, if you can believe that! I"m here to help you scratch that off the list. It doesn't apply here people!
We tie a GOAL to an accomplishment; and In our culture, an individual can't be considered successful unless a GOAL has been achieved. And the usual motivation behind that method of madness, is carried right over into our sex lives. How f....cked up is that I ask you? The bigger, the longer the wetter the better; why, why, why I ask, does it even matter? The way to measure success with sex; is to measure your INTENTION right off the bat!
What are you aiming for; what's the plan man? There's compelling evidence that in this area of life, people and couples consistently fall short of achieving bliss; which IS the only GOAL that's required in this scenario! More often than not, the fault is attributed by the GOAL setter. Yep, those of us who insist on bringing the outside GOAL BULL CRAP into the bedroom. But the real problem here, is the efficacy of the INTENTION itself.
There are psychological manifestations that can organically grow from not achieving any GOAL at all when it comes to sex; which is much less damaging on our esteem, than having one in the first place. The process that I like to bring into this equation, allows you to set up desires (NOT GOALS) that are realistic for the reality of sex. Whenever we desire things that we don't have, we set our brains nervous system to produce emotions. Secondly, get rid of those highly aspirational GOALS that you want with sex. Those require us to develop new competencies, some of which, may be beyond our own current sexual capabilities. Look, we are who we are in this quadrant of life, so be comfortable with who that is. Remember your blueprint sexy ones! The more you try and develop these outrageous personalities that you are not; but you heard that it could be sexy, the more likely you are to experience an unsatisfactory sex life, which then can become a turn off. And the third; GOAL setting which sets up an either or polarity of success. The only true measure can either be 100% satisfied sexually, or perfection in the bedroom, or 99% and less, which is failure. The fourth and final, GOAL setting doesn't take into account random spontaneity of chance. The other problem is; that sexual GOALS often throw in the images of the ideal or perfection, which activates the self judging thinking of; I should be this way or that way. This totally counteracts "in the moment" which needs to be the only element here.
We must also make a distinction between our INTENTION vs GOAL. An INTENTION is a direction we want to pursue, and preferably with passion of coarse. Through my practice with couples and singles coming to me for guidance, they are often confused, and unclear about the INTENTION of how they want to live in their sex life, and therefore a focus on GOAL is amplified. This doesn't assist them with clarifying their INTENTION at all.
When I work with people as their sex coach and mentor with this area of their life, they often tell me they've set a GOAL such as; I want to be able to last longer with my partner (which is fine and dandy) or, I want to be able to make my partner orgasm 4 times! Nice thought, but unrealistic. What they don't realize is, they've just described the symptoms or outcomes of the problems in their sex life. The cause of the problem, which many resist facing, is the GOAL needs to vanish! They don't realize that for a change to occur in the bedroom, (if you want change that is; they must have an INTENTION only. Once you make that change, everything around you will alter, which will make the GOAL irrelevant.
There's an old saying here, and we need to renew it; you don't get what you want in life (GOAL), you get in life what you are (INTENTION).
Ok my sexy little grasshoppers. Let's stick with the process, shall we?
oxoxoxoxoxoxo
Saturday, May 30, 2015
Solitary Sex
Hey
you tigresses and tigers! How the heck are ya anyway? I totally have
the understanding that those tribes of animals are solitude creatures;
I’m no stranger to savouring the state of freedom either, what about
you? For a good deal of my life, it has been a constant companion.
While I celebrated my inner lone tigress during all that self time, I
also learned a very important lesson, where there was going to be a
point when my unique, vibrant, and essential sexuality would begin to
demand my attention.
Some single people deal with sex by casually taking lovers when they wish; sort of like cleaning out the bathroom sink trap. I'm Guilty! If you’re married or co-habitating, your partner is right there at your disposal most of the time. Certainly, if you consult your little black book or making time for intimacy with your partner; this is one way to address your sexual needs.
There is another way; and that is, to be your own lover. Developing intimate self love is not mutually exclusive of the other ways to get your sexual needs met. In fact, it’s the first step toward a more fulfilling sexual life. Yep, you can be your own lover. How sexy is that? If this thing called self love, when it pertains to sex, sounds new agey or weird, it isn’t. Think of it this way. Before you can be a good lover to anyone else, you need to be a good lover to yourself. Yeppers, it IS that simple. What else can you bring to a sexual relationship but what you are willing to offer to yourself, right?
When someone asks you out to dinner and lets you choose the restaurant, how do you know what flavours appeal to your palate unless at one time you made the effort to figure it out on your own? Sex works the same way my playful followers! The more at ease you are with your own body and your sexual needs, the better equipped you are to share sexual energy with someone else. Look you guys; It’s not difficult to begin developing a sense of your unique sexual identity. You can begin a solitude practice to discover and encourage it in a number of ways. Here's some starters.
Some single people deal with sex by casually taking lovers when they wish; sort of like cleaning out the bathroom sink trap. I'm Guilty! If you’re married or co-habitating, your partner is right there at your disposal most of the time. Certainly, if you consult your little black book or making time for intimacy with your partner; this is one way to address your sexual needs.
There is another way; and that is, to be your own lover. Developing intimate self love is not mutually exclusive of the other ways to get your sexual needs met. In fact, it’s the first step toward a more fulfilling sexual life. Yep, you can be your own lover. How sexy is that? If this thing called self love, when it pertains to sex, sounds new agey or weird, it isn’t. Think of it this way. Before you can be a good lover to anyone else, you need to be a good lover to yourself. Yeppers, it IS that simple. What else can you bring to a sexual relationship but what you are willing to offer to yourself, right?
When someone asks you out to dinner and lets you choose the restaurant, how do you know what flavours appeal to your palate unless at one time you made the effort to figure it out on your own? Sex works the same way my playful followers! The more at ease you are with your own body and your sexual needs, the better equipped you are to share sexual energy with someone else. Look you guys; It’s not difficult to begin developing a sense of your unique sexual identity. You can begin a solitude practice to discover and encourage it in a number of ways. Here's some starters.
Take a dance class that focuses on sensual movements
Get a massage - by me!
Buy an outfit in your favourite sensual fabric
Take a warm bath
When you take time for
yourself in solitude, you have a tremendous opportunity to develop a
strong sense of your own sexual identity. So, what happens is; you are
better able to share your sexuality with a lover, that is if you choose
to have one. Regardless of whether or not you have a partner, a
well-developed PRIVATE sexual life WILL help you to create a strong
sense of majestic self worth.
Ok all you remote minded islanders! Please take the time for solitary sex this week.
See you again!
oxoxoxooxoxoo
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Friday, May 15, 2015
Sexual Prism
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Hey my transparent recruits! How's the sexual journey? Have you ever taken a moment and pondered over your sex life; and feel like you've lost your hold on your sexual personality? Truthfully, many people are now grabbing back their personal sexual identity. Some of us feel like we have to dabble into exploring all the hype; even if it's not to their personal liking. This my friends is NOT the way your sex life was meant to be lived. What I'm saying is: if you already have the knowing inside of you; meaning, you see the black and you see the white; or the varying hues stemming from that ; then the work is done!
So how do you find your personal sexual prism; if you haven't already done so, in order for you to determine exactly who you are in your sexual world? Theoretically anyone, anywhere, at any time can tap into the internal depths of their personal sexual prism. First off, however, in order to decode the colourful information; it requires the light, of that crystal clear awareness of yourself, in-depth knowledge of what exactly is being thrown out to you from society and the continual development thereafter, for your own sexual skills (yes, skills!).
It's easy to identify your personal sexual prism, but I'm here to tell you, it's just as easy to have it clobbered, so be careful please! Of course, having a giving partner is essential, but your sexual prism comes from you; you create and created it. For me, It was an incredibly long and arduous process; given that my sexual prism was crafted by other people in my previous relationships, and I naively went along with things, thinking that eventually I would be a certain way sexually. Society also dictated to me with; here, try this or try that; even when I knew the black and white of sexual self. I eventually burned up those sketches society was trying to draw for me and had a ceremonial naked fire dance ritual; ashes to ashes! So far I've learned to remember that my sexuality is meant to be enjoyed with pleasure, and to stay present and open during the whole blooming process. Remember, no ONE sexual experience is THE experience. Even with the same partner, it can change over years, weeks, and even days. So let go of that silly drawing that was thrown at you, telling you that you're suppose to be this specific sexual being or that apparent sexual being! Toss it, or roll it up and shove it in a closet for memories; you don't need it anymore! All you need is your triangle; made up of your inner self, your body, and a willingness to allow the light in, to open the spectrum of colour that awaits!
Take a look at a blooming spring flower garden and noticed the colours are perfectly accentuating each other? Stop wasting your time looking at the colour wheel to see if one colour matches the other. With your sexual prism; everything matches like a garden blooming with pinks and oranges together. I bet you never thought of decorating one of your rooms in your home with those two colours did you? But in the garden, those colours are perfectly natural; growing and revealing their true radiance! This is how it works with your sexual prism. Your sexual prism is one garden of colour; stemming from the black and the white; THAT YOU ALREADY KNOW AND SEE!
Ok you patient, passionate, colourful followers. I leave this with you to ponder.
Next time as usual!
oxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
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Hey my transparent recruits! How's the sexual journey? Have you ever taken a moment and pondered over your sex life; and feel like you've lost your hold on your sexual personality? Truthfully, many people are now grabbing back their personal sexual identity. Some of us feel like we have to dabble into exploring all the hype; even if it's not to their personal liking. This my friends is NOT the way your sex life was meant to be lived. What I'm saying is: if you already have the knowing inside of you; meaning, you see the black and you see the white; or the varying hues stemming from that ; then the work is done!
So how do you find your personal sexual prism; if you haven't already done so, in order for you to determine exactly who you are in your sexual world? Theoretically anyone, anywhere, at any time can tap into the internal depths of their personal sexual prism. First off, however, in order to decode the colourful information; it requires the light, of that crystal clear awareness of yourself, in-depth knowledge of what exactly is being thrown out to you from society and the continual development thereafter, for your own sexual skills (yes, skills!).
It's easy to identify your personal sexual prism, but I'm here to tell you, it's just as easy to have it clobbered, so be careful please! Of course, having a giving partner is essential, but your sexual prism comes from you; you create and created it. For me, It was an incredibly long and arduous process; given that my sexual prism was crafted by other people in my previous relationships, and I naively went along with things, thinking that eventually I would be a certain way sexually. Society also dictated to me with; here, try this or try that; even when I knew the black and white of sexual self. I eventually burned up those sketches society was trying to draw for me and had a ceremonial naked fire dance ritual; ashes to ashes! So far I've learned to remember that my sexuality is meant to be enjoyed with pleasure, and to stay present and open during the whole blooming process. Remember, no ONE sexual experience is THE experience. Even with the same partner, it can change over years, weeks, and even days. So let go of that silly drawing that was thrown at you, telling you that you're suppose to be this specific sexual being or that apparent sexual being! Toss it, or roll it up and shove it in a closet for memories; you don't need it anymore! All you need is your triangle; made up of your inner self, your body, and a willingness to allow the light in, to open the spectrum of colour that awaits!
Take a look at a blooming spring flower garden and noticed the colours are perfectly accentuating each other? Stop wasting your time looking at the colour wheel to see if one colour matches the other. With your sexual prism; everything matches like a garden blooming with pinks and oranges together. I bet you never thought of decorating one of your rooms in your home with those two colours did you? But in the garden, those colours are perfectly natural; growing and revealing their true radiance! This is how it works with your sexual prism. Your sexual prism is one garden of colour; stemming from the black and the white; THAT YOU ALREADY KNOW AND SEE!
Ok you patient, passionate, colourful followers. I leave this with you to ponder.
Next time as usual!
oxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Thursday, May 14, 2015
Sex Syncronicity
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Hey you harmonized sexy followers! Let's get into sync sexually and become those excited erotic beings that your know you are! Picture this; you're in bed with your partner and everything SEEMS great to you, as a man. But suddenly, you're seeing fireworks and she's fizzled out. So what happened? Simply put, you may have assumed, that when it comes to being turned on, women and men are ready at the same time.
Look, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, in the heat of the moment, many guys make a sexually FATAL mistake; they assume that their partner is as excited as they are, so as men usually do, they speed things up when they should be slowing down or doing more to get into sync! You guys can't just assume that a woman's level of natural lubrication corresponds exactly to the level of excitement that she is experiencing, can you? NO! You can't. Lubrication is a big part of the arousal process, BUT, it Is by no means an indicator that she's been amply stimulated. She may be as wet as Niagra Falls, but not necessarily aroused. So don't just go for the jugular. Stop that! Conversely, a woman may be highly aroused, yet not necessarily well lubricated. Men often take this as an insult, thinking that they're doing something wrong; which at times they have, but listen; don't just go stickin your finger or manhood in there!
Confused? Listen up! This is how you can make sure your partner is really raring to go, so you can once again enter the home of bliss that you long to be cozy with! Generally, if a man focuses on foreplay ONLY; and keeps the stimulation going, the lubrication will flow. If not, a little extra assistance can help. Most women prefer having a natural lube (like your saliva) until their own wetness kicks in, while others find that they can only get properly lubricated if they feel themselves already wet. Natural substances, are the way to go here!
Beyond a woman's level of lubrication, guys should pay more attention to the visible signs of arousal. And just what are those signs? Throughout the ages, WISE MEN; which I know you all are, have reflected upon this question and, in the Eastern practices for love and sex; there is an indication for female arousal, which I am going to lay out for you. Her hands are hot and her abdomen is warm, and at the same time her language becomes almost unintelligible. It's like, the la la of dialogue coming out of her mouth. Kinda like talking in tongues! Her expression looks as though she is bewitched, BUT NOT A WITCH. Her body is soft as jelly and her limbs are droopy. The saliva under her tongue has been sucked dry. There is an increase in the pace of her breathing. Touch, not fondle or grope her body; is there an increase in her temperature and heart rate? Can you feel a high state of tension in her muscles? What about the abdominal muscles? Are they tightening? Connect your face cheeks to her pelvis; is it throbbing and is there a general bearing down movement in the pelvic area?
Bottom line here, stop assuming that women are just like men, and start using your senses with synchronicity to determine when a woman is really excited. I'm tellin ya; your partner will not only thank you; she will LOVE YOU! Wanting to brush up your touch skills again? You know where to find me.
That's it again for this segment. Stay tuned; I'll be back.
oxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
416 556 2647
Hey you harmonized sexy followers! Let's get into sync sexually and become those excited erotic beings that your know you are! Picture this; you're in bed with your partner and everything SEEMS great to you, as a man. But suddenly, you're seeing fireworks and she's fizzled out. So what happened? Simply put, you may have assumed, that when it comes to being turned on, women and men are ready at the same time.
Look, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, in the heat of the moment, many guys make a sexually FATAL mistake; they assume that their partner is as excited as they are, so as men usually do, they speed things up when they should be slowing down or doing more to get into sync! You guys can't just assume that a woman's level of natural lubrication corresponds exactly to the level of excitement that she is experiencing, can you? NO! You can't. Lubrication is a big part of the arousal process, BUT, it Is by no means an indicator that she's been amply stimulated. She may be as wet as Niagra Falls, but not necessarily aroused. So don't just go for the jugular. Stop that! Conversely, a woman may be highly aroused, yet not necessarily well lubricated. Men often take this as an insult, thinking that they're doing something wrong; which at times they have, but listen; don't just go stickin your finger or manhood in there!
Confused? Listen up! This is how you can make sure your partner is really raring to go, so you can once again enter the home of bliss that you long to be cozy with! Generally, if a man focuses on foreplay ONLY; and keeps the stimulation going, the lubrication will flow. If not, a little extra assistance can help. Most women prefer having a natural lube (like your saliva) until their own wetness kicks in, while others find that they can only get properly lubricated if they feel themselves already wet. Natural substances, are the way to go here!
Beyond a woman's level of lubrication, guys should pay more attention to the visible signs of arousal. And just what are those signs? Throughout the ages, WISE MEN; which I know you all are, have reflected upon this question and, in the Eastern practices for love and sex; there is an indication for female arousal, which I am going to lay out for you. Her hands are hot and her abdomen is warm, and at the same time her language becomes almost unintelligible. It's like, the la la of dialogue coming out of her mouth. Kinda like talking in tongues! Her expression looks as though she is bewitched, BUT NOT A WITCH. Her body is soft as jelly and her limbs are droopy. The saliva under her tongue has been sucked dry. There is an increase in the pace of her breathing. Touch, not fondle or grope her body; is there an increase in her temperature and heart rate? Can you feel a high state of tension in her muscles? What about the abdominal muscles? Are they tightening? Connect your face cheeks to her pelvis; is it throbbing and is there a general bearing down movement in the pelvic area?
Bottom line here, stop assuming that women are just like men, and start using your senses with synchronicity to determine when a woman is really excited. I'm tellin ya; your partner will not only thank you; she will LOVE YOU! Wanting to brush up your touch skills again? You know where to find me.
That's it again for this segment. Stay tuned; I'll be back.
oxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
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